How do I stop my mother from verbally abusing my husband?

Dear albummaker, I think you've offered a valuable suggestion for us all. Thank you. Sometimes, as Caregivers, we complain as well. That is our nature. Yes, God is still in the miracle business! Not everyone will go to him for help, (including us) but we can pray for those who can't, won't and don't, including ourselves. How often do we complain, or hear complaints about insignificant things, when problems far greater lie under the surface? A little investigation often proves the underlying cause, and stirs our compassion. There are many lonely, tired and bewildered people out there, just wishing someone would take the time of listen or show they care. Often all they need is a simple prayer. God is just waiting for us to ask him, and he is more than able to meet our needs is tangible ways. Thanks for sharing that story, and reminding us to look to the greatest repairman of them all! Hugs to you.

Perhaps you need to find the root cause. If there is no other medical reason for the verbal abuse, perhaps she is 'venting'. I heard a story about a gentleman who brought his brand new car into the repair shop every week and complained about problems that were seemingly non-existent, but he was very verbal and ill tempered each time. The manager finally did some checking and discovered that the man was the caregiver for his wife who was terminally ill. The trip to the repair shop had become his only means of release for his feelings of helplessness. My mother was the same way. I became her release for the fact that she could no longer take care of herself. Pray for your mother and your husband. God still performs miracles.

If your Mom has dementia and this is ongoing, her neurologist/psychiatrist can prescribe medication to help her behavior.

Do your mother and/or father have medical or cognitive issues? Why does she abuse him? How does he react? I realize these aren't answers, but your question begs more information.