I just lost my 31-year-old son..I find sometimes I just almost cant breath..any idea how im supposed to get through this?

I don't think you ever get over the loss of a child, no matter how old they are. But you have to think would they want you to go through the rest of your life grieving them? And I think the answer to that is no. This isn't something you will just get over, but you just need to go day by day. Talk to them often, he's listening! Try to get involved in things to keep you busy. Its still ok to cry, get angry, and even laugh! And find someone that you can talk to about how you feel. Your not alone, even though it may feel like you are. But remember if you were the one to go first you wouldn't want him to stop living just because your gone. And he wouldn't want you to stop living too. Give yourself time to grieve, and in time you will begin to live again like he would want you to. God bless you!