I'm 27 years old and have been a caregiver to my mom since I was about 13 years old. She has had cancer on and off during that time frame. My only brother has since passed away and my father died 13 years ago. My mother is not on speaking terms with any of her family and I pretty much have no family to help me. I have put off my college education for as long as I could to care for my mom thinking it was going to get better. It's only getting more complicated, and I can't keep putting off my education. The last few times my mom has been in the hospital she's had to go to skilled nursing facilities because it's getting harder for her to get back on her feet. She says she doesn't want to talk to her family and that she just wants to live peacefully with me and not share me. I'm at a loss for words because it's really hard on me to work, be in school, care for her and try to live a semi normal life with no help from anyone. Her mental state is also a cause for concern as all she talks about are the evil people that are trying to kill her and God. So talking to her about things is not the easiest thing to do. I'm overwhelmed, exhausted, and tired of feeling guilty for trying to live my life. I'm just wondering if anyone has any helpful advice for me.
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I did not want it to end this way with a big family fight.
At least I did have a chance to work 25 years and get a good education, even though the jobs I had did not match the amount of education I had due to layoffs, etc.
Don't burn yourself out and end up with a lot of health problems, that will affect you for the rest of your life. You are still young and need to be allowed to be on your own and have your own life.
she does need a outside help and of course you ;ll come around and see her but please go enjoy ur life , LIFE S TOO SHORT ..
i was married and havin babies at your age and enjoyed raising my family an dnow theyre all grown up and have kids ofthier own and i have nothing better to do but stay home and take car eof dad . i have lived a good life and lots of memories .
you said u started takin care of her when u was 13 . geeze your mother has u wrap around her pinky finger . its time to let go ,
put yourself first and go on to school and have a life of your own . i am sure your mother did that when she was 27 yrs old . it is not fair and its not right .
keep her in rehab is the bestthing you could do for her . i think if my mother was like that and im 27 yes i would have done that .
i am 47 yrs old and my father is 86 yrs old and i am takin care of him . i tell you i have no life other than take care of him . which is ok i dont mind , i am done with schooling and i am done with working too . i would rather stay home and take care of my sweet ole dad . 47 yrs old and tired ...