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stukinthemiddle Asked December 2009

My mother-in-law has been removing her pull-up briefs. It causes quite a mess at times, and requires so much extra cleaning. What can we do?

My mother in law has been removing her pull-up briefs. It causes quite a mess at times, and requires so much extra cleaning. What can we do?

EXPERT Carol Bradley Bursack, CDSGF Dec 2009
This is a common and frustrating issue. Does she have dementia?
She may not understand what she is doing (not that this helps you).

Could you try a different kind of brief? The change may help her either by making her more comfortable, or just confusing her because they go on differently.
Carol

AlzCaregiver Dec 2009
Buy cheap cotton underwear, and use poise pad. ues pullups as added protection. Be willing to throw away cheap real underwear if they get too gross.

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Aleeta Dec 2009
My aged mother said the seams irritated her. We switched brands
a few times. Even if your m-i-l cannot communicate with you clearly, something as simple as a scratchy seam might be the problem.

loveoneanother Dec 2009
try wearing OVERALL.it work for me with my grandmother.

arose4yu Dec 2009
my mom used to do the same thing. What we did was get her a jumpsuit that zips from the back so she couldn't pull her underwear down. You can find it at buckandbuck.com . Depends aren't that great. If you have a CVS near you , sometimes they have a full-service medical supply center. I'd get that brand. Or I'd go online to try to find better diapers. If she has Alzheimer's, the fidgeting includes taking off: clothes and/or underwear.

patrica61 Dec 2009
Some of big stores sell special diapers at wholesale prices, If you have a SAM'S club or a SUPER WALMART they also sell their special type of diapers in different sizes. I found them to big bettter than depends. That is where I had gotten my mom's even when she had to go into a assisting living. I went to special surgial hospital stores when she was up north and also when she came to Florida with me they were not as good and cost more money. When she was in the assisting living they sometimes use the large green ones, just like most hospital do. They are easy to ake off for the nurses with pull off with tabs on the sides, the pulls up can be taken off by some of the patients. Your parent may have the signs of Dementia or they can not control them selves any more. You can even put a pair of underwear on so she does not pull them off. It is a very hard issue. Mom is at peace now with my dad. It ws a long battle but I was always there to take care of her. I always check for diaper rash and made sure there was no smell or bed sores at the end. When she was up north it was bad, when I first found out about the illness myself. I walk in to the smell of pee through the house. She had no control and was wearing just panties and the social services or nurses did not do anything to help her in New York, that is why I brought her to Florida. You are not alone, we all have different experiences especially with the hygiene part with the elderly. Bless you at this time of year. patrica61

stukinthemiddle Dec 2009
Thanks to all who took the time to comment! Yes, she (my MIL) has dementia (6th stage). I never thought about overalls! She now has no control over her bodily functions. I am careful to wash & dry her thoroughly, and watch for any breakdown of skin! Again, thanks to all. . God bless! I don't wish this on anyone, but it is helpful to know we're no alone!

linda09 Dec 2009
my father has dementia , but have no clue what stage he is in . he still has his mind and can answer me whatever i need to know . but i have to tell him ok get up ok put ur hands up ok need to start walkin etc tell him what to do and dont do . he can barely walk . leans way over to left side . but he can eat no pblm but as for drinkin i think pretty soon i will have to use training cup . what stage is that in ??
dr in fla is the one said he has dementia but didnt say what stage . that was few yrs ago ..
he is in indiana with me over a year now . yes he sleeps alot ... sad .

patrica61 Dec 2009
Thank you Carol for all the advice that you give. You helped me out alot through my tough times. The Dementia is hard on every one, as you know and I experienced until the end. My dear mom is at peace. I give thanks to this web stite for all the kind words and advice that was given. Unless you have some one or have taken care of someone with serious health problems you don't know. May you all be bless this hoiday season. Thanks again everyone out there. patrica61

Bellamary1926 Mar 2014
My mother in law is allergic to the plastic of the diapers Are there any cloth diapers?
Where can I get them/ I live in Athens, Greece. I could order them fro the States and pay by credit cards
Thank you,
B. Dietchi

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