My mother refuses medication because she doesn't want to tolerate the side effects. What can I do when she blames me and the doctors for not fixing her?

me grandma says she cant handle the meds but when she doesnt take them the screaming is unbearable weve tried everything at a loss i guess this is our duty as family try to find some time to de stress

Sadly, I've had to explain to my totally disabled father who has lived with us for three years now (advanced Parkinsons, dementia, etc) that his medications cannot "fix" him, as he also questioned why he was taking meds and not getting "well". I've told him the meds allow us and his CNA caregivers to manage him and his variable mental states when the need arises. Without the meds, his care would be beyond us.

A lot of medications have bad side effects because they are not substances that are natural or meant to be in the human body in the first place. I completely understand your mother's reluctance to take prescription meds. They usually treat only symptoms, not causes, and do not promote real healing in the body. Whatever her medical problems are, I think it would be worth it to investigate whether there are natural alternatives to the prescriptions that are recommended for her. It would take some study, but there are often natural alternatives that do not produce the same side effects of pharmaceuticals. I think that orthomolecular medicine and naturopathic doctors have a lot to offer, as does good nutritional therapy. I know these are not as popular as traditional alopathic medicine, and some people do not believe in them, but my son and I have benefited from this approach, and he was thought to have an incurable condition, which is quickly vanishing.

When your mother refuses the medication she has to be made to understand what happens - both if she takes it and if she does not. Maybe she is concerned she cannot drive or other things? Can you adjust when she takes it - maybe at night so any effects being experienced are when she is sleeping?

candushka- my mom is 80% in cying , whining state- but not negative- i told my siblings if she starts to get mean and combative- i will have to put her in a home - unless they want to care for her- i have to live to and if she is going to be mean - let someone get paid to take care of her and they wont get their feelings hurt cuz its not their mother- i told my kids while im mentally fine- take care of me until i get mean- dont expect u to put up with me- they said ok-

Has she already experienced negative side effects to her medications, or is she afraid of possible side effects of which she may be aware?