Every time my Mom talks to one of her docs they tell her about some gadget or device that will "work miracles." Most of these things do not work and/or Mom uses them a few times then out in the garbage they go.
The problem is that she wants me to research the item, track it down, order it, and help her figure out how to use it. I wouldn't mind if they worked - but they don't. I wish these docs would just mind their own business - I think its their way of getting the patient off their backs.
Added to everything else that is going on, I just don't need more "projects." Any suggestions that work? Every week it is something new!
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Great suggestions above...and I have been using many. The main problem now is that she calls everyone under the sun to get these wacky products and implies, along the way, that we refused to buy them for her.
I think that she is going through and end-of-life issue and holds on to the belief that there is a magical doctor out there who has a miracle cure for old age. Sometimes the docs are just trying to help - other times they are just trying to keep another senior quiet.
I have so much on my plate right now that this all seems to minimal...but it does cause hassles down the road. The main issue between us is that I am a person who deals with reality, Mom has always lived in fantasy land. (Nice place, I'm sure...I might go live there too :o)
Thanks for your comments.
Lilli
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A few suggestions:
(1) Ask your mom who recommended the gadget. If it turns out to be doctors, research the product for its effectiveness before you confront them to ask why they'd give your mom false hope when they know it really doesn't work. In a nutshell, have your ammo ready before you say anything you'll regret later.
(2) Nag your mother by reminding her of all the other gizmos she's bought that never did anything for her and she either discarded or stashed somewhere "just in case."
(3) Research whatever product it is that your mom wants before you do anything else. If it doesn't agree with your own reason and your own common sense, don't take hope out of your mom's sails but ask her how she thinks this particular product is going to enhance the quality of her life. If she has no clue, you can point out cheaper alternatives that render the same or similar results without breaking the bank.
(4) If she wants what she wants when she wants it, don't give in just to get her out of your hair. Stand firm and help her see the light (whatever light that is as long as she doesn't continue throwing money away).
-- ED
ez and witt: there are so many companies just trying to pick the pockets of seniors - it is a disgrace. But I guess at any age one needs to be a good consumer. Maybe Mom's doc was trying to help, but I'll bet she is not caring for an aging parent herself. Sometimes they just get in the way of what is appropriate. Anyway, I don't need anymore energy vampires in my midst.
Thanks for everyone's comments.