My mom has urinary incontinence, and she doesn't leak, she pours. She is has lost ability to 'clinch'. What do we do?

I would take her to a Urologist, they can determine what the problem is and how to help. There is mediation for incontinence that may help or it may need to surgically corrected. Mom had a prolapsed uterus that was putting pressure on her bladder. Six months after her stroke (you have to wait that long for surgery after a stroke), she had surgery to have it corrected and does very well now with depends (only occasional accidents). During the six months before her surgery she would go to the restroom every two hours whether she felt she had to go or not. Good Luck!