I have a brother that has helped in the past but says he's done. There's 5 of us siblings caring for my father. 2 of my brothers got in a argument about dads care. And 1 of them says he's done. (is that elder neglect?) It's along story and now the others say they won't cover his days, so I'm stuck doing them. I have plans on going on vacation and they say they won't cover my days either. My wife and I worked 35 years for retirement, (I retired 2 years ago and she retired 1 year ago) and for the past 2 years I have done rotating days with all of them, 24 hr shifts. Before I retired it was 1 night a week and my only day off during the week. I have been doing my share of dads care, I think we deserve the time. I have printed lots of material from this site to give to them as far as Home Care and Assisted living. And 2 of them refuse to even read it. Would it be elder abuse or elder neglect if I just went on Vacation. I'm not saying I quit, I just need some time away.
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Tell your siblings if they're unwilling to stay with him while you're gone on vacation, they need to chip in the money to hire an aide to stay with him during that time.
Do you need their approval and/or financial aid to put him in assisted living? If not, you may need to find a place for him and move him in yourself, if there's money and/or medicaid/care available. It is not fair to you to spend all your retirement time taking care of him while your siblings cop out.
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