In the state of Illinois am I able to stay home, take care of my spouse, and get paid?

Each state is different (these programs are federally funded but state administered). So, try going to your state Web site. Type "aging" in the search and follow the local links for information. You will find the National Caregiver Support Program on the site (could have a different name). This can also be very useful. Good luck. I hope you find some help, but it's not likely as much as you'd like.
Carol