How do you get through life when your husband of 31 years passes away?

Greif counseling can help. Hospice offers grief counseling, and many independent counselors do that, too. Nothing will take away the pain of your loss, but counseling can help you cope. Please see a doctor, and then seek out grief counseling.
Take care of yourself -
Carol

You join a grief support group in which you not only help others to manage their grief but you receive their loving support. You learn to understand that although grief feels terrible, it is the process of stages we go through to begin to heal. Spend time with people who love you, eat well, sleep when you can. See a doctor if you can not sleep.

You were blessed with a good man that is why it is so hard for you and I am truly sorry for your loss and do join a grief group you will be helped and will help others and come here any time the most wonderful people in the world are here.

I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. It is a difficult time for you and words do not seem to be enough. A grief support group in your area is a great idea. And we, here, are another. Never hesitate to express yourself here...there are so many knowledgeable people who have been through similar things. Take care of yourself,
Lilli

I am truly sorry for your loss. Hang on. It's still bad for me after 7 years. I retreated to my bedroom for some time after the death of my husband and mother, 3 months apart. My youngest, adult son was a great comfort to me and urged me to go on. Every day, then and thereafter, I look at a sign on dresser mirror that says, "Yes I Can". Sounds peculiar, but I wrote it in lipstick during one of my darkest hours at the urging of my son. At the time, I was working for the President, and my son told me to apply the same slogan to my own life. I know it's only a phrase but it has got me through when I didn't think I could do anything again or even get out of bed. I've always been the caretaker and still am. REMEMBER to take care of YOU!

I've been in counseling and I'm beginning to fell over whelmed again.Just so you have the details, i lost my 15 yr old dog,husband,house in 6 months.The boys are finally trying to talk to me,but I was totally alone as our freinds dropped off the earth,so it seems.1 foot in front of the other is getting hard.

I am so very sorry for this horrible loss. I echo what others have said about seeking support from others. I know I want to pull into my shell when things are going wrong. I really have to make myself reach out. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, but I do think others can help. Please take care. One step, one deep breath at a time.

Find a Chat Room, Church, and lots of pets. Grow your garden and get ready for what is to come next, communism. You wont have time to think about the past with preparing for the future. The person is gone. You have the memories. That is what makes a life worth living, memories. We all will die someday. Show your family how to handle your death when that day should come. Buy new sheets, towels and rearrange the furniture, change your phone number, buy yourself a couple new outfits, get a new hair style, and clean out the deceased persons' closet and donate ALL of it. Good luck and may you live a healthy long life yourself.

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Losing a loved one can be oh so very hard.

I pastor a small church in Millerton, PA. If I can be of any help whatsoever, please feel free to contact me. God bless you. I will pray for you.