My mother won’t wipe after a bowel movement, how do we get her to clean up?

My mom is now unable to assist getting her to the toilet, and I can't do it alone. I know this sounds stupid but does she just stay bedridden now and I attend her like a very large infant? I used to use the massive amount of wipes also, we only have a shower stall that she isnt able to get into now, help I really feel lost and dumb.

I would like to know as well....we have found that after a BM and using the wipes to make sure to DRY the area well then applying lanaseptic.....It would be lovely to just put my husband in the shower, but that's not a possibilty!

Thank you for your response Pirate Queen. The other problem with my Mom is that she has arthritic knees and has trouble walking. She walks w/cane and still needs assistance from me as well. She has fallen in her bathroom a while ago and will not get into the shower anymore. Thank God, she didn't break anything. There is only a stall shower in her bathroom, no tub, which would be hard anyway getting her in and out. I now have to give her sponge baths. So using the spray (which I used to do) is not possible anymore. Thought there might have been some special wipes out there that I am not aware of. Anyway, Thanks again, and good luck with your Mom.

Oh ho ho ho ho...yes know that one really well just recently...okay if it's really bad...then I say heck with the wipes and I take my mom to the bathtub and undress the bottom half and use the spray handle attached to the tub to focus on that area and a soapy sponge till it's gone then put on another fresh depend and sweatpants. Otherwise youre standing there forever with those tiny wetwipes or wetted down toilet paper.