How do I make mealtimes less stressful?

I think all the anawers are good especially about he eating first before the rest of the family and also get a therapist on board for ideas if there is a hispital or nursing home close by you might be able to get ideas and how about a Parkinson's group or a support group for caregivers at a local hospital and when you find what works for you share it on this site so others can be helped.

Oh your poor Dad, this breaks my heart. I agree to get an occupational therapist in for ideas and prop him as best as you can.I used bolster pillows or roll up a towel. My Mom used to lean when her meds were too high. We get thru with singing and counting and telling interesting short stories to keep moms spirits up. Sounds like you are all stressed, your Dad picks up on that and I believe when you are calmer, he will be. We're all going to get old, have patience, he cant help it.

OMG I know the feeling. When my mom started having problems feeding herself we were all stressed out. What worked for us was me feeding mom before the rest of the family. I'd sit at the table with her and help her when needed and then once she was done she either sat at the table with us and ate a bit of dessert or went to watch TV. This way we could all enjoy a meal and each other. Hope this helps.

Has an occupational therapist worked with your dad? They might be helpful. From reading the information the only idea I have is could you use a vest that would keep your dad in a more upright position? something that would tie to the chair. Also find the foods that he does the best with and serve them often. Hope something helps.