I know that there is alot of emphasis on giving seniors independence and keeping them active. I feel very strongly that this depends totally on each person and their own abilities. I am constantly being criticized for being "OVERLY PROTECTIVE" of my mother. 85 years old some Alzeihmers/Dementia. She likes to take her walks and I can't always go with her when she is ready to go as I have my household duties and family to attend to also. I tell her she can only walk either way on our block, to not go around the corners as we will not be able to see her if something should happen to her. She not only gets upset but tells friends and family members that I don't let her go. Not only can she fall, but she doesn't have the instinct that we do regarding strangers anymore. She talks to everyone and tells them anything that comes to mind. Her conversation does not have a filter so I feel I have no privacy. She calls everyone her friend but yet can't even tell me their names. I don't want her be going in to anyones house either. We know alot of people in our neighborhood but not everyone. My concern first and foremost is her safety. I really need some support on this.
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You are the one who knows your mother's limitations and symptoms. You have the responsibility to make decisions on her behalf, no matter what others say.
You have decided that Mom is at too much risk if she goes walking on her own.
You cannot walk with her as often as she would like.
The options are to find someone else to walk with her sometimes, or to curtail her walking. I think the first option is far better, if you can possibly manage it.
Good luck!
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