my sibling and I have POA for mom who is in last stage alzheimers. I have recently discovered and uncovered documents that prove mom did not receive any rental income from another property that is now in a trust for at least 5 years, maybe ten, since my father's death. My sibling is not producing any bllls from that property that I requested. They have even charged their car insurance and withdrew money from my mom's reverse mortgage to do so. So far, they have admitted taking $98,000 for the last 3 .5 years of rent because they needed it . (my sibling is disabled on SSI). I am sure more funds have been squirreled away in another bank account in her name. I have POA and have checked mom's bank account and no deposits have been made for the last 3.5 years. I have equal inheritance to my mom's estate, and he has depleted it without my knowledge. I have obtained recent bills from the home she lives in, but I need that rental property bills. My sibling and his wife are covering up alot of inappropriate withdrawals on mom's account and don't know how to investigate this further. Do I see a criminal lawyer for an investigation, can I hire a private investigator to recoup mom's money. I am trying to pay for home health care, and have no money left after september when the reverse mortgage ends. I am torn apart that my sibling woud be so devious and risk mom's welfare and take funds belonging to my mom. My sister is bedridden for the last 3 years and I just want all the money back. Who knows how to do this and what to look for? I suspect she and her husband are shredding bills from that house as we speak. Please advise.
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just remember to breath -evey once in a while-a good deep breath-
much love and hugssss-k
All comments here are so appreciated. It gives me direction. Thanks to all.
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i m saying that because my brother has also been a real a$#*&^%&!!!!!!
and i thought i knew him, is 7 yrs younger- i used to take care of him a lot....
now, since dad passed and moms in a NH he has become a bully,abusive and just
so sneaky-- idont have any different advice--but i send u millions of huggggggsss
because i know the stress of this can be overwhelming.
and dont forget to take a deep breath every once in a while-
god bless- k
Perhaps once your brother realizes that you are trying to resolve this without getting him in a legal jam, he will be cooperative. Or not. It might help to have the lawyer explain it to him.
He may have seen this as a loan against his inheritence. He is not entitled to see it that way, of course, but perhaps a lawyer could arrange for it to work that way. For example, if he has "borrowed" $100,000, and each of the 3 of you will inherit $150,000, he would only get $50,000 and the extra $100,00 is split between you and your sister. That makes the inheritence equal -- each of you gets $150,000. He just took part of his early.
That still leaves the mess of fraud against the ssi program. I have no suggestions about that. Maybe the lawyer will. Perhaps he is going to have to use what ever he does inherit to pay back that income and penalties. I don't know. But you and your sister are entitled to your share.
See a lawyer!