My dad became ill starting in Feb. He was in and out of more than 8 facilities. I eventually brought he and my mom to my home town to my home to seek medical help. Despite all the procedures, tests, and hospital stays at different hospitals, he passed away a few weeks ago in my home with Hospice. Mom has been living with me through all of his hospital stays. Her dementia has caused alot of confusion, but, miraculously, she does know that dad is no longer with us. I packed up their 2 bedroom apartment and moved everything back to my home. Mom is living with my husband and me. If I am out of her sight, she is calling for me. She makes me promise I won't leave her alone. I am looking at an Assisted Living facility near my home. I am very tired and know she would be better with a more structured day and with women she can make friends with. But, is it too much too soon to do this? Someone suggested a transition with an Adult Daycare. Some have said to do the Assited Living. I want what is best for her. But, I need some time with my husband, too. He has been patient and understanding, but I know it has been hard on him. I feel so guilty even looking for a place. I am not an only child, but I am handling all the medical, the insurances, the bills, etc. What should I do?
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Good luck to you both!
One organization through the SSI office i contacted said she was over qualified for someone coming to the house...I think it was called respite care or something. But they did say that we could pay for the service. i thought about it so atleast i could get out and mow the yard, but at $10 an hour and it would take me about 5 hours just to mow. That's $50. So i found someone to mow it for $40. Saved me $10. I'm trying to work it all. It is just me and my mom. We need roof, AC/Heat, neither vehichle has ac, and i beg and plead with doctors when i have to go see one....because i can't afford $200 - $300 health insurance. Not sure what there is i can do. I just keep on trucking....one day at a time and pray.
janmeyer3005, I think that docjgirl may be right, that it is a little too soon after the loss of her husband to make a major change. But that shouldn't stop you from exploring the AL options. Many of them have waiting lists.