When my mother gets agitated, she repeats the same phrase over and over again non-stop (like help me, help me, help me; or I need a drink of water, I need a drink of water, I need a drink of water). She does this when I'm in another room and doesn't stop until I come into the same room with her. Has anyone else experienced this with their parent? She has trouble hearing, so even if I call out to her before I can get to her, it doesn't do any good since she can't hear me.
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I noticed that the repetition behavior would often occur during times of emotional stress . Family tensions, social interactions and even boredom seemed to trigger repetitive verbal behavior. I told one of my clients that I had discovered a "button" on her body which, when I pressed it, played a recording that always said the same thing. This is because when I bathed her she would invariably begin to say , practically verbatim!, the same few phrases over and over again. And at about the same point in the bathing process.
This same client would also continue making a demand until someone (usually a family member) would provide her with what she was demanding. Although I could see that they were "enabling" her I was also sympathetic to their plight. I would try diverting her attention with a variety of ploys, and it would work for a while and then she would be right back to the subject she had been repeating earlier. I was of the opinion she needed either more or less or a different medication. She has since gone into a "rehab" facility more or less on a permanent basis. I visited her there recently and noted that she was still exhibiting the same behavior---repeatedly returning to repeating a demand "(I need my depends changed" --and it had been changed) So, long story short, I am still in the dark as to what causes this behavior and whether some or all of it can ever be controlled.
Another client repeats a question over and over even after it has been answered.
It's interesting how the question is remembered in its entirety but the answer received is forgotten so quickly. Apparently the mind has different processing areas for when we question and when we passively take some thing in.
I am endlessly fascinated with trying to determine what the trigger is behind the question itself, what makes it so important to the person that they are invested in asking it again and again?
In my opinion these conditions of the brain and the research involved in searching for treatment, causes and cures is one of the most fascinating endeavors currently facing the medical community. Apparently also one of the most challenging (and frustrating and patience-testing) problems the intellectual scientific/medical field has faced.
He human brain---the final frontier! It appears we know infinitely more about every other field of scientific study than we know about the human brain. And yet, unlock the secrets of the brain and you unlock the secrets of the universe.
Maybe our focus on everything else is more intense because our eyes are located in front of the brain lol.
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sounds like a broken record . over and over and over again .....
Help me, help me, help me.
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my shoes are slick, my shoes are slick...I guess afraid of falling (she had broke a hip years before) but was bedridden at this time.
But don't throw the baby out with the bath water! Pills can be very effective and greatly improve quality of life for the elderly, too. Without seroquel my husband with dementia would simply not be able to continue living at home, as he has for these last 8 years. That is no exaggeration, it is a simple fact. I was on the verge of placing him the first year, when that drug gave us a little miracle. On the other hand, I know of other people with his disease who have tried it without success. One size does not fit all!
It is not a matter of "believing" in drugs like that ... it is a matter of what works.
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Sorry for the confusion. I have attached the correct link now.
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There is a article written by an AgingCare.com Editor that was already posted in our community. We thought this might answer your caregiving question.
What To Do When a Parent Repeats the Same Things Over and Over
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/elders-repeating-the-same-story-146023.htm
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Karie H.
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I just saw on TV they have therapy dogs for elders who need attention and stimulation. Company may be what they are searching for. One woman at the NH has a baby doll who she kisses and holds and cares for, it's very cute. My Mother kidnapped the baby somehow. I have to look at the humor it helps.
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What To Do When a Parent Repeats the Same Things Over and Over
www.agingcare.com/articles/Alzheimers-disease-activities-games-139990.htm
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Karie H.
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