I have been taking care of my Mother for over two years. She had dementia. We took her from her home when my brother wasn't caring properly for her and brought her into ours. Her home is in arrears for $35,000 in back taxes and we can't sell it. Since it is viewed as an asset we can't find nursing home care to be paid by Medicare. My husband just retired and we want to travel. I resent her so much sometimes knowing she can't help it but feel trapped as none of my siblings will help except maybe a month a year if that. I am at a loss for help. Any suggestions?
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Obviously, she is in dire need of financial help. Your local Social Services should be able to help get the paperwork started for Medicaid and eventual nursing home placement. The home is the sticky part. If it could be sold, then that money would be used for her care until it ran out and then she would go on Medicaid. Good luck,
Carol
You have given your all, and now it's time for you to get some help.
When God said "to not forsake your parents" I don't know that necessarily meant at the expense of yourself. Sometimes it is just not possible to have your parent(s) in your home.
When it comes to Medicare and Medicaid, an elder law attorney should definitely be consulted. When a patient goes from the hospital into a nursing home for rehab, Medicare will pay UP TO 100 days. Generally they get away with 30 days and that's it. I have done a lot of research for my state on Medicaid. Yes, there are some "rules" that are universal. The parent's home is exempt from being included when there is still a spouse living in it. Some states have a 5 year look-back law, so you have to be careful what was spent on your loved one. Good record keeping takes care of that. Another avenue to consider is to place all your parents assets into a Trust. As long as they are alive it cannot be touched by Medicaid, you can pay for anything for your parent(s) care, then when they die you will be billed for whatever Medicaid paid for their care. If there is nothing there, you must be able to prove that all the money was spent on their care. The advantage to this way is you won't go into a tailspin trying to do their "spend down" to qualify.
It's very tough taking care of a loved one in your own home and those who tell you that's it's a breeze are not being honest with themselves. When the care giver is mentally and physically unable to do the caring than it's time to make other arrangements. Homes of whatever level are there for a purpose. You just need to do some research, visit a few places and find one that meets your needs and the needs of your parent. Don't let those who try to pass on their horror stories influence your final opinion....everyone's experiences are different. And most of all there is no reason to feel guilty about placing your parent....there are a lot of people who will try to inflict that on you and you must remember that in placing your parent you are actually showing them how much they are loved because you want the best for them. That is not always keeping them at your home or even their own home. And what is best for them is not always what we provide. Good luck to you in your journey, it's not an easy one, but do it from the viewpoint of what is best for all parties concerned.....it is your decision alone, and not what someone else tells you to do.
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Medicare & Medicaid are very different programs. This site has sections on them.
Basically MediCARE pays for health related items (hospital, dr visits, RX) and everybody can get Medicare at 65 - we pay into it when we work. Even when you are retired and get SS, they still take out for Medicare (about $ 97 mo).Medicare will pay for a few days (I think it's 26 days) in the NH, if the elder was in the hospital prior and is discharged to a NH that has a rehabilitation program. This is pretty common and how most end up getting into the NH. You use the time Medicare is paying to figure out how to pay for them to continue to be in the NH if that is what's needed.
MedicAID is a federal/state needs based entitlement program (and very different than how Medicare & SS are done as they are federally structured entitlement programs).Because it is needs based what was done with assets in the 5 yr window prior to Medicaid application is central to qualifying. Medicaid is designed as a safety-net for low income who can show both financial and medical necessity for long term care. The monthly asset ceiling and how assets are dealt with after death (MERP) is set by each state.
Each state has its own regs for MedicAID for nursing home payment. In general:
- you must be 65+
- you must need skilled nursing or other skilled health care services
- have countable assets under your states asset ceiling (about $ 2K but varies)
Their home (if under 500K or 750K in some states, like NY), their car, term life insurance policy (a NCV type) are considered "non-countable" assets. So her having a home doesn't matter for Medicaid qualification as long as the home is considered her homestead and primary residence and that can be verified. If she moved in with you and changed her ID and rented out the house, then the house exemption can get to be a sticky situation - you'll need an elder care attorney.
If the property is over the state's limit - like the assessor has it at 580K- then they cannot qualify for Medicaid. The property has to be sold and the $ used only for her care and her needs. A lot of elder's have had their 1960's era purchased home have huge increases in value & they really paid no mind to it as their taxes were frozen for being 65+. Then it's an issue when they need Medicaid.
"Countable" assets are whatever they received each month from SS, an annuity or other retirement. The amount is whatever they receive BEFORE anything is deducted for insurance payment. So if mom get's 700 from SS and 1000 from dad's pension, then her countable resource is $ 1,700 and ALL of this less whatever your state has as their monthly personal needs $ (30 - 80) HAS to be paid to the NH. Some states deduct the insurance & Medicare payment from what has to go to the NH. Medicaid is kinda maddening in that each state manages it differently and each NH runs how it deals with the personal needs monthly $ differently (some require it be put in a trust fund at the NH and others let the DPOA manage it). What will be important is that you find a NH that accepts residents
"Medicaid Pending" - that means you will pay whatever mom's assets are each month till the paperwork is done (my mom's took 5 mos); many NH take Medicaid but do not take "Medicaid Pending" - with those you will need to private pay whatever is the difference from what mom's assets are. So if the NH is 3K a month and she has $ 1,700 a mo, you will have to pay $ 1,300 a mo to the NH.
About the house with back taxes. You need to find out what the county assessor has as the appraisal. Most just sent this out as most have it due Feb 1, 2012. Many counties have this on-line. You will need to have this document anyways when she applies for Medicaid. Assuming it is under 500K, then she still keeps the property and qualifies for Medicaid. Now under Medicaid, the house is subject to MERP - Medicaid Estate Recovery Program. You will sign off on a document that states you know that. Again each state does MERP differently and it is usually done through probate. If no one in the family want's the property or has the $ to buy it, then personally I wouldn't worry about it - let it go to sheriff's sale or assessor's tax sale. Hell you could even buy it at auction for a fraction of what you would pay to clear the back taxes.
Remember once mom is in the NH and on Medicaid, every cent less her personal needs allowance must be paid to the NH. There will be none of her $ to pay for anything on her homesteaded residence - taxes, maintenance, insurance, utilities, etc. You or other family will have to do it. I am doing this for my mom's home and when she dies, I will file a claim with her state's MERP program for every cent I paid & my cousin who pays for her yard care will file a MERP claim too.
Next month - January, 2012 - your mom will be getting a # of documents you will need for her Medicaid application. SSA will send out their 1 page statement and all the retirement/annuity accounts do also (either as a EOY statement for 2011 or 2012 beginning of year one). Also the banks & investment houses & insurance companies that pay a dividend will be sending out their statements. You will need all of these to do her asset sheet for the Medicaid application. Good Luck!
I'm not sure the Social Security Office would be your best source for information. I have found they are much more interested in getting people in and out than they are with actually helping and answering questions.
persistence, but try it. For what it's worth, you are not alone in dealing with the situation you find yourself in. God bless.
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