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boundries59 Asked December 2011

How can I stop my siblings from borrowing from mom's savings?

She has spent 20.000.00 in less than a year...14.000.00 to one brother, and 6000.00 to another..Not to mention grandchildren "borrowing"....My Mother has made me durable power of attorney and I have both of her bank accounts. However I need to watch for her care, and don't want people taking her money anymore, That is for her to live on.....Is there some way I can stop this? PS My mom appears to have dementia...forgetting, repeating herself...etc
Thank you

Hannalee Dec 2011
Very lucky that you have POA. You don't have any choice than to control access to the funds. If your Mom is doing the lending, maybe you can convince her to talk with you about it and hopefully she'll understand you're looking out for her interests. If she doesn't get it, then you'll have to hang tough even with her, for her sake.

planeman Dec 2011
As an old retred lawyer, I can tell you that the answer is really simple. Your POA gives you the power to close you rmother's current account and reopen it under your name. Different states have different rules and/or laws. My suggestion is that you open the new account as,"In trust for (mom's name" the purpose being to make it clear that you are not claiming the money as your own but for a specific need. And BTW, when your mother comes to the end of her life remember to reduce the inheritance to the ones who took advantage of mom.

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Jaye Dec 2011
how do they get a hold of it??? do they talk her out of the money or what? You never know what is going to happen to our older loved ones... She should have what she has earned and saved.

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