I care for my Dad's girlfriend who use to live with us but Alzheimers and behavorial issues caused me to put her in a nursing home. Before things got to a point of no return I had her appointment me as her POA and HCP...I am her guardian. Her family who does not really bother with her called her at the nursing home. Because one of her behavorial issues is constant crying they just assume she is unhappy. They want to take her to live with them. I don't think it is a good ideal due to the house hold having small children and a roommate who lives with them. The noise and confusion would send her into mass confusion. Do I have the right to say no? I sugguested they start seeing her on a regular basis and then I would consider weekend stay overs. Do you think they can fight me on this?
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You didn't really elaborate on how this came about but I wonder if the family was fully informed of the deterioration of her condition at the time you say that "I had her appoint me as the the POA." What I'm thinking is that maybe her family assumed she was fine as long as she was healthy and living with her "boyfriend", but actually would have "bothered with her" if they had known she really needed it.
You know the actual truth of the situation, of course, but if it turns out to be true that they would have cared and taken action if informed, then that implies that you have a "stealth" POA, which IMO is legal but not ethical.