She had a stroke in Sept and now can't walk independently or read, our father / her husband of 50+ yrs died in October and she is now in an assisted living facility. We are trying to balance what is best - stay there where there is more "activity" or come home w/one of her daughters (but all working families) so during the day it would be quiet. She does have financial means to support herself and pay for the "extras". My sister and I really struggling w/the right path.
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A lot more change right now might be hard to cope with. Unless she hates it, I would think that staying put where she is might be the best course for the next 6 months or so. What if she has dinner with each of you once a week? How about joining her for a weekend meal? Getting together to go to a movie or museum or to garage sales -- whatever she enjoys? Try to combine the stability of continuing her present residence with the benefits of family interactions. Also encourage her to do activities and trips sponsored by her center. Be gentle about it. A new widow with new disabilities may not be ready to plunge into new social interactions.