My husband can get very verbally abusive with me, and all he wants is to buy things he will never use. How do I deal with these issues and what can I do about them?

but thats all I heard about it. He is alot like his Mother, she has Alzheimer's 94 yrs old in a nurcing home. Her DR. never saw it with her . My husband can get very verble abusive with me, and all he wants is to buy things he will never use. I handle the bills and with all the costs going up I am having problems . We are both on S.Security and I can only spead it so far. When I tell him we can't buy he keeps bugging me or gets mad. I don't know how to handle all this. He gives me a hard time with my family when they call, but his sister or daughter it is differant. This is a second marrage , and over 30 yrs. He still brings up about his X wife and divorce. He is a drinker and has very bad health Heart and annerysiums. Please help