I'm trying desperately to cope with the fact that my mom is in her last days. She's stopped eating and drinking. We do have a hospice care agency providing us with a home health aid weekday mornings and we have a decent hospice nurse who comes 1-2 times a week. My 2 adult children and my mom all live with me, so I also have some family support. I am just so tired and sad. I feel as if I won't be able to face the inevitable, but there is no alternative, of course....My daughter keeps telling me I need to have times where I can clear my head of all the sadness, just for my own well being, but I just can't stop thinking about my mom and how much I am going to miss her. I am unable to function during the few hours I am putting in at work ( thank goodness I have an understanding boss and staff!!) Thank you all for reading...
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I wish I could be there to hold your hand. My advice is to lean on the hospice company and your family for support. Your daughter is correct, you need a few hours a day to clear your head and care for U..!! I cared for my mother for three years and she was in a facility for respite and they literally killed her. I miss her every day and get angry some days at the facility.
Losing someone who you love is not easy, make your peace with your mother, and talk about all of the wonderful memories with her and your family. Celebrate her life while you can, try to enjoy your last days with her. Read the link I have attached, it will help you a lot.
Blessings Bridget
I am sorry to hear what you are going through right now. I can imagine how tough it is on you and your family.
I have included a few articles that I think would be a great resource for you during this time. I hope this helps.
How to Cope When You Know Your Elderly Parent is Dying Soon
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/coping-with-elderly-parent-dying-138574.htm
Words of Comfort: What to Say When Someone is Dying
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/say-to-someone-who-is-dying-148641.htm
This article is for after you go through your hard time and the death of your elder.
6 Myths About Grieving
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/grieving-the-death-of-a-loved-one-149491.htm
We wish you all the best. You are in our thoughts.
Karie H.
AgingCare.com Team