How do I help my parents deal with my moms failing memory?

sammody, my first thought when you said your mom won't go a doctor about this, is that she's afraid what he/she is going to tell her. But if she does have the beginnings of Alz. or dementia, there are drugs like Aricept or Namenda for example that can slow down the progression. Talk to her, see if indeed she's sticking her head in the sand so to speak.

Your love for your parents is so very clear in what you wrote. I know that caring for aging parents is not an easy road to travel. I'm always checking in with my mom and dad to make sure they are doing ok. If you think it might be helpful, I would encourage you to read an article series by Focus on the Family. In my time working there, I found it to be extremely helpful and full of good information. You can find it at the following link: http://bit.ly/GScj9q

I hope it encourages you too. Take care and God bless!

Wow-this is such a tough situation to know how to handle and what your responsiblity is. Sounds like your dad must be her primary caregiver? If so, I'd encourage you to urge him to talk to her doctor about this issue. He/She might have some suggestion of what actions your dad, or you, could take to help your mom. Also, while working at Focus on the Family, I came across an article at http://bit.ly/Hg9Ibz that talked about a similar situation and maybe it will give you some guidance? Just a thought! Well, hang in there friend. I know this is a hard time when our parents reach this age. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers!

Consulting Elder Services in the town in which your parents live might be a good start. They have heard just about everything and can offer insight and suggestions we might not think of. Being afraid to drive is actually a good thing as you hopefully will not have a problem keeping her off the road as she at least realizes it. This is a plus, believe me. Take care.