My mom is in the hospital, pneumonia. SHe has been ther for a week now, and they deceided to take a p.e.t. scan . She had one about three years ago, and thats when thay saw the cancer in her lung. The new results are that the cancer has spread to her lymph nodes and ther is another mass growing in her lung. I'm going to take her home today. I'm so pissed off at the doctors because they knew she had cancer but said that she was too weak for chemo. They said that months ago and they are still saying it. Why won't they treat her? She will surely die if they don't. How do I get them to treat her?? My heart is broken and I feel like I have let her down. There must be some oncologist that will give her chemo! cry, cry. crying, etc,etc,..............................................................help?
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I do not understand why they would not treat your mom's pnuemonia, that still falls under palliative. I assume she lived you. I am so very, very sorry for your loss. I am very new to the forums and at the lowest point in my life.
I am also sorry to hear of the passing of your mom. At least now she will have no more suffering. My prayers are with you.
I have left my home and family in Florida to come to Vermont to care for my Mom. She was just diagnosed on 5/7/12 so I still have long days ahead of me. Should you have any thoughts you could share with me they would be much appreciated.
Maybe my mom will meet your mom one day....
Deborah
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Please stay in touch and know that so many people on this site love and respect you. We also feel your pain and sorrow. Love from my deepest heart, Cattails.
Mt 78 yo mom was diagnosed with Stage 4 Lung Cancer on May 7th, 2012. She had three radiation treatments before we all realized that her body was just not strong enough to accept the treatments. You have to ask your mom what she wants to do but it sounds to me that her doctors know that chemo will not perform any miracles for your mom. She, like my Mom, would probably prefer to spend her remaining days alert and as strong as she possibly can.
I am struggling with the fact that my mother is dieing even though there are days when she is completely fine. Trust those around you, trust your heart, and trust the thoughts and wishes of your mom.
I know this may not be what you want to hear and I wish I could honestly give you advise for more chemo or how to go about obtaining additional treatment. In my heart, however, I think the doctors may be right in saying she is too weak for additional chemo. They don't want to do that to an elderly woman if they feel it will end her life.
May I ask how your mom feels about all this. Is she ready to pass on? If she is tired of the fight and just wants peace, I hope that is a comfort to you because it is within your power to help in that regard.
Please forgive me if I've added to your distress. I care about you and your mom and realize how much you love her. My heart is with you both and I will keep you in my prayers.
Wishing you and your mom peace and comfort. Cattails