How to get my mother to realize she can't go on at home and needs to move?

Odette, When my mother-in-law finally had to move out of her house after 50+ years, it was pretty bad. She also has dementia and is legally blind because of macular degeneration. My father-in-law had been her eyes and memory, especially when it came to taking her pills. Before she fell and broke her OTHER hip, and the decision was taken out of our hands by her doctors, we tried to help her stay in her house alone. I would make sure she had a pill organizer set up for 2 weeks ahead. Either I or my sister-in-law would wash her hair, wash her feet (she didn't take showers) took her shopping & to Dr. appts and I more than anyone, became her entertainment director. Eventually she did have to move out and into asst living (which she hated at first) but I learned a couple of things. First of all, it wasn't the HOUSE that she didn't want to move away from, it was the MEMORIES she thought she'd lose. She told me later on that she felt like she was abandoning her deceased husband, and felt like a traitor. Once I understood her 'logic' then I was able to talk to her about it. I told her I wished I had a time machine, so she could be back with her husband and 3 sons in her little house when she was happy. She has lost her husband, her vision and her memories are going down the drain, but I focus on what she DOES have. She still has her 3 sons and all the families that are attached to them. My point is, she HAD to move & she had no choice in the end and it was awful for her. But she survived and doesn't lament (too much) about going 'back home' anymore. Do what you have to do about your mom, it's not gonna be pretty for sure, but that's life. Sometimes it's sucky. As for me, my m-i-l has become my road trip buddy. Since I don't punch a time clock, and she loves to travel, I take her places with me. In fact, a few days ago I took her in our 4x4 up in the woods on a gravel road, that I swear went on forever. She loved it, and so did I. She's a good sport (THANK GOD). :)