How do you get a parent whom you take care of to eat their vegetables?

She want to eat pumpkin two time in a day first after exercise and second is before lunch this is good fro diabetes for patient.

I have a friend whos autistic child won/t eatvegetables so when they make sauce for spagetti or some kind of other food they will mix in veggy baby food into it. Sneaky but it works

It sounds like you are trying very hard to do what is right for her. I know you only want the best for her. Giving her choices is smart. I'm sorry it isn't working as well as you'd like it to.

So, count carbs. Count what she really eats, not what you hope she will eat. When it is all written down and the carbs are all counted, what do you do with that information? Is medicine or insulin adjusted based on the carb count? If so, adjust it. Is this a record that is shown with a registered dietciian or a certified diabetes educator -- someone who will then discuss it with Mom? If so, turn the records in and let the professional discuss it with Mom.

Eating inappropriately has consequences for persons with diabetes. (Well, for everyone, really, but the consequences are more obvious and pronounced for a diabetic.) If Mom understands the consequences, shouldn't she be allowed to decide what to eat?

I'm a diabetic, about 10 years younger than your mom. If I lived with someone who expected me to eat what they wanted me to eat, I'd throw it in the trash, too. Sorry.

It would be bad enough -- terrible, really -- to suddenly not be able to cook for myself, and to have physical limitations from the stroke. This would be a huge blow. And now, on top of that, I've got people telling me I've got to eat a half a cup of green beans for dinner?! Yup, I can sure see the trash can filling up with green beans!

This has got to be so hard on everyone in that household. I commend you for trying to do the right thing. I really do. I know that your heart is in the right place. But how about just writing the food down, counting the carbs, do whatever you are supposed to do with the results, and stop discussing it. Try to make meal time pleasant, and stress-free for all of you. Maybe after a few months of adjusting to her new situation and without being constantly stressed over it, maybe when it isn't a contest of wills any more, Mom will take more responsibility for her own health and eat better on her own. Or maybe not.

But frankly, I think constant fighting over what she is/isn't eating is more detrimental than being short on her vegetable counts.