I take care of my mom 20 hrs a week. I've let my situation cloud my identity and fear talking to people because of the dreaded question 'what have you been up to? What's new? I'd rather be alone than to not feel anyone gets me and i don't feel connected.
I'm going to join a support group at a nearby church so that should help. Does anyone else struggle with this?
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How long have you been doing this. I believe we caregivers go through stages of loneliness, depression and fatigue....also added health problems from the stress.
Good for you joint a church group. Keep us posted on how it works for you.
OTOH, like supermodel slimness, society promotes social behavior but there's nothing wrong with being an introvert. The support group is an excellent idea. I hope you find your true self and the strength to be that person :-)
I too hated to be asked "how are you doing." What do you say to a question like that? I'm stressed, totally fatigued,feeling lonely, having a terrible day, hurt and sad? People do not want to hear those things and even if you did answer those questions, you don't want to clarify what you meant, neither does the questioner want to hear your clarified answers either. Its not their fault, but what can they do to help you when you answer those questions truthfully? Until you connect with true friends from your church, then you are able to have a great sit down with one or two of them over coffee someplace or even your own home or their home, and then cry, explain, and ask to pray with them and they, through the Lord, can give you the emotional help that you need.
I hope this helps.....
Take care.
Elizabeth
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