Does a soldier have to be wounded to receive benefits? My brother has Alzheimer's and served in Vietnam but wasn't wounded. Is he eligible for assistance?

I don't think they take a home away, but they would take the cost of your brother's care out of any estate that passes from him.

It might be a good idea to consult a lawyer who is experienced with the VA. They can help you protect your brother's assets while getting him the care he needs.

There are some benefits available that are not associated with whether the veteran was wounded or not. Here is a link to a question and answer page, there is more available on the VA website if you poke around. Aid and Attendance should be available. I am just sharing what I remember from my brother's experience, so this is not a comprehensive answer, but I do think your brother is getting a bit of the runaround.

My brother was honorably discharged. My brother is married and they have a small house valued at $100,000. Do they take the home away inorder to get help from VA Is the spouse left penniless before they can get help? Va has been no help to her.

Please, PLEASE go to the website of the Veteran's Administration (see URL below). Your brother probably DOES qualify for VA care. I am not an expert in these things, but my brother was also a veteran from the VIetnam era, and though he was not IN Vietnam, he has still qualified for a lot of needed medical care.

http://www.va.gov/healthbenefits/apply/

Was he honorably discharged? Or was he medically discharged?

What are his current finances. He may need to get medicaid in addition to what the VA can do, but he is eligible for some VA care.

If he needs long-term care, they can provide it in one of their veteran's homes, and (this is just skimming the surface) they will not charge him directly if he has no financial resources, but they WILL charge the bill against his estate. When he passes, they get their cut first.

Do go directly to the VA website, and also hunt for a veteran's advocacy group near you. They can guide you.