If my mom will not go to respite, can I use my power of attorney to get some one to transport her while I get us moved?

Can you take her for a drive to show her a "place" (respite) and leave her there while you move? The staff should be a ble to calm her. I agree sedatives may be necessary. My ex's sis has a manic attack (she was bipolar) on holiday overseas, and it was a nightmare getting her back to Canada. She had to be sedated, and put on a plane. If my mother had to be moved from her ALF to a nursing home she would probably have to be sedated as she would refuse to go. In your case this is only temporary. Sedating her for a while may be necessary. Check with her doctor and let us know how it is going.

My mom has Alheimers and my step dad will not put her in a center, because he is afraid they will take his money.He is talking divorce so he won't be responsible. Mom is very difficuly. He is 90 and she is 82. I have been told that only he can put her in a center.

This is a lot to handle; and your mother needs to cooperate. I don't know what kind of center you are referring to, but some sort of respite care is going to help you out tremendously. You are doing this all by yourself and you are wise to set up ahead of time and get organized, while Mom can temporarily go to respite care. If your Mom is fighting it, perhaps you could talk to her doctor and ask if there is a sedative he/she could recommend to help her be more cooperative.

If you have POA and Health Care Proxy in place, you should be all set to make the necessary decisions. Bless you and hope all goes well.

Sedatives are extremely helpful in necessary in many cases. I know what it is like to be doing it all yourself, no easy task.