Nurse at Rehab Butting In

There is a particular nurse at the rehab facility that my mom it at who is butting into my relationship with my mother. Friday I talked with the nurse, social worker, and physical therapist about plans for my mother, and the cognitive issues that make it extremely unsafe for her to be at home alone. We are working toward placing my mom in assisted living.

Last week, this particular nurse arranged with mom for her to come home for a visit .... without consulting me. This is after a more senior nurse told me they would not make any plans for my mother without consulting me.

Now, it seems that my Mom was telling this same nurse about my plans to place her in assisted living. The nurse told her that I could get one of those alarm necklaces. My Mom calls me, presents this as the perfect solution, and proceeds to get very, very upset with me when I did not accept it as a solution.

The physical therapist says my mother has loss of sensation in her feet that prevents her from knowing whether she is balanced or not, has one leg shorter than the other after partial hip replacement, and her leg on the side of the replacement turns out at angle. Combine that with extreme osteoporosis and dementia that has affected her ability to make decisions regarding safety, we have a recipe for disaster.

Soooooo ... am I right in thinking this nurse is overstepping her boundaries? I am convinced that she means well. What do you guys think? Anyone experienced this?