Hello, I am a 55 yr. old woman whose husband is an alcoholic. My husband and I have been married for 37 yrs. He has been in and out of rehab throughout the years. This is the norm for him. He recently went back to rehab, leaving me carrying all the expenses. Since this so called “disease” is incurable and relapses are part of the process, how do I protect my assets from his irresponsible behavior when he drinks? When he is in his disease, he is notorious for driving intoxicated. Even though he is getting help, again, I have concerns about my future with someone who is unstable. I’ve been through this too many times in the past. Now, it frightens me more than anything. The older I get, the more scared I am becoming about this relationship and my security. God forbids he hurts or kills someone due to uncontrolled drinking. Anyway, I prefer to get feedback before I consult a lawyer. What has been your experience in this area? I appreciate any feedback that relates to this topic. I really will appreciate that very much. Thanks a million!!
Happy New Year!!!
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I prayed that he'd quit for years. He "quit" several times and was in rehab once. I went to Alanon meetings to learn how to be ok with it. I finaly realized I was miserable and that he was not going to miraculously change into a whole new human being --- even if he did stop drinking one day.
It's tough in the beginning to be on your own. However, I look back on that decision I made 20 years ago and I have no regrets whatsoever. I became a happier person and have accomplished things on my own that I never would have had I stayed married.
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