I have been ill for over a week. I am the only caregiver for my 83 year old husband and have been for three years. Thank goodness that I have been as healthy as I have been dispite a lung condition and diabetes. The VA doesn't think I need help. . .(that's going to change come my husband's June appt) I am 66 years old, don't look it, and don't pity myself for my medical conditions. But - this past week I have been sick. When everyone around thinks you can take care of yourself and the patient it is a burden when you fall ill. I have stocked up on easy to prepare meals, staples and medications. . .but, who helps you when you are ill? Sometimes do we just take on too much? Just wondering what others do when - as a caretaker - you get sick.
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I;m assuming your husband is on Medicare, So any kind of respite care would have to be paid by you or a local eldercare service. Do you have a senior center in your town? If so, call them first and see if they can lead you in the right direction, They usually have someone on staff that knows all the local senior advocates. Many communities have services that provide respite caregivers when you need them. Depending on how ill your husband is, you may be able to get hospice in to help you get a break. Hope this helps.
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Father finally told next door to help when the home care nurse came and put an IV on me (for 6 weeks) due to a heart infection. And then there was the time he also called them when my stomach was in so much pain, I could barely walk or sit. Other than that, they don't help. I've recently sent them (all siblings) an SOS text that therapist said that I will die from exhaustion or end up in the hospital. No Response from Next Door. For the past 3 days, I have dizziness ALL day. Yesterday, any sudden movements, and the room spins. Today, I got heart palpitations. I do believe that I'm gong to crash - whether by nervous breakdown or a stroke or heart attack. Time is running out for me.
It is really tough, isn't it? Very similar to being a single mom and getting sick. Or when both parents get the flu and the kids are already over it and rarin' to go. Somehow we all get by.
I hope you can convince the VA that it is time for some help.