Her memory problems are getting worse but every time I've brought up to her getting evaluated she gets very angry and stubborn and shuts down the discussion immediately - this is with me just saying I'm concerned about her memory and not mentioning the A-word. She keeps pretending it is part of normal aging and is no big deal, normal memory slips but it is not.
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Call her doctor's office and give them a heads' up, then have him make an appt. with a geriatric neurologist for evaluation. Good luck, this is one of the hard parts.
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Get her to the Dr and onto the meds if you can but in the meantime it is important to make sure she is safe. Get an electric kettle that turns itself off when it has boiled. Same with a toaster oven, the timer will turn it off if she forgets. Can't do much about the stovetop but encourage the use of the microwave. Make sure all smoke detectors are working and near the stove.
Call or visit daily even for a few minutes. Make a fancy list of phone number and post it by her phone. if there are young grand children this is something they could do and decorate,
Get her a life alert or similar panic button. She probably won't use it unless she gets a real scare. (At 74 I don't) but try and take my cell when I go out. I also do wear a medic alert bracelet and keep a list of contacts and medications in my purse at all times. I have fallen a lot but my bones are strong so far only scrapes and nasty bruises. As I said in a previous post old nurses are stubborn creatures even if we know better.
Don't push or panic her, she is well aware of her condition and will admit it in time and seek help if she wants it
Relax about pushing her to admit it and let her come to her own conclusion. You will not be far away, and she can retain her autonomy for as long as possible, along with her pride. I wish you both abundant Grace :) xo
And thanks Madeaa too, you do make a good point - about a specialist too, if the GP can't do the above it may come to that and then it won't be low key at all!
I remember taking my grandma in for such an evaluation and it was pitiful but the Dr. was great and didn't make a big deal out of the evaluation, he just kind of threw it in there before my grandma knew what was happening. All she said later was, "Those were weird questions the Dr. asked me." And that was it. The entire family was terrified of this evaluation and of grandma's reaction to it and it was a piece of cake.