I think mom has moderate dementia and sun-downers at night. She stays up all night and shouts loud and I can't sleep. Any advice?

I think the advice I once got from my son's pediatrician applies to elders as well. My son was hyerpactive. The doctor told me they medicate for the sake of the parents more than the children. Everyone's quality of life must be considered. We made it without medication. But my children know that it is fine with me, if when the time comes, I need to be medicated for their sake, please do so. So when you go to the dr's tell him both her situation and your feelings and see if you can't come up with something that helps all of you.

Has she been diagnoised for dementia? if so talk to her Dr. and see if he can put her on mediation, I work with alz clients and Dr usually put them on medication especially for sundowners

Perhaps ambien would help? Also, her diet may be impacting her sleeping.

dbillops -
It sounds like a medication issue, that the right medication might help. I don't have much experience, but tell us what has been tried, and the experts will give you good advice.

alternate the medication. some nights give mom the vodka and you take the ativan. this way your respective tolerances remain low.
im just bein jerky. if your a full time carer its advisable to sleep whenever your mother sleeps if possible.you sure asked the right person about self medicating. im like the bayer corporations lab rat..