Is it normal for an aging person to resent their caretaker sometimes?

If this is really unusual for her, please have a few tests run. My mom had become very weepy and obstinate when I went to help her shower. That was NOT like my mom. One day she was yelling at me and crying about not wanting to shower. I was concerned the neighbors (she lives in IL) would think I was hurting her. It totally freaked me out. Well, it turns out her thyroid had stopped working. Luckily I found that out by being an advocate for her. She'd been in the hospital where they ran tests that showed her thyroid had quit working. But they didn't tell her doc. I happened to take her to the doc for something unrelated the next day and when I told the doc she had been in the ER, she went looking for the bloodwork and saw the thyroid results. After several months of getting her meds adjusted, she's back to my "old" mom. She now does her own shower and she's much happier. I'm not saying that's what's going on with your mom, but she could have a treatable medical cause for her behavior, since you don't mention Alzheimers in your profile.

If she used to be a good mom, it's the disease. Or maybe it's pain or depression.

Sometimes a person with dementia feels bad, but doesn't know why. They don''t know where it hurts, and they don't quite realize THAT they hurt. Find out what you can safely give her for pain, and give her one or two. If that improves her attitude, then keep her on a low dose.

Lots of people who were nasty all their lives have become nicer people with antidepressants or antipsychotics. Again, talk to her doctor. Start with a low dose, and don't give up if the first one or two don't help.

If she's being mean to you, she's unhappy. If medication can make her happier, why not? You don't have to tell her it's for her mood. Call it a new heart pill.

God bless your sweet, gentle heart, and try not to take it personally. The Captain is right.

Oops:) I boo booed.

I tried not to laugh, but I can't help it. I am hearing Chris Rock saying " that ain't right" in the movie, Head of State.
Sonnybee, why do you think she's resentful ? I think they get jealous that we still have a life. I think many people have regrets and feel they missed something.
Anyway, it's not very nice. Loving parents want to see their children happy and prosperous at all ages. xo

she is ill. you can blow confetti out your ass and tell chris rock jokes all day long and its not going to make her happy. its part of our caregiver burden. you cant make an ill and failing person happy. its all you can do to retain your own sanity.

Can you provide more details? How old is she, you, what's her health/mental status, are you hands on 24/7, or some other nightmare? yada yada:)