My 94-yr dad broke his hip 4 weeks ago. After 1 week in hospital and 2.5 in a SNF is home. But my 90-yr alcoholic mother is a terror; abusing the care giver we hired and all family members. She wont' give us POA and says she can make decisions, but she has dementia and can't remember anything. She's also giving my father alcohol and took much aspirin.
It's a total mess! what can we do? Help! MY brother is named in the Trust as the back up, but how do we get him legal authority and then what can he do with it?
I fear my father (who's really sweet when he's not around my abusive mom) may have to go to a facility, even though he wants to be at home. But she is making it unsafe!
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Is she a happy drunk or a mean drunk? The reason I ask is that my SIL is a happy one. The more sloshed she stays, they better. Sober her up and she is mean.
Also, does she drink and drive? If so, wait until she is drunk and goes out and then make a call to police and report her.
Also, (and I don't mean to sound hateful by this) but if she is 90 and a heavy alcoholic, it may not be a problem much longer (e.g. automatic health concern due to age, mix alcohol with pills unknowingly, falls, etc). So sometimes, the only thing you can do is avoid people like that as much as possible and just wait until the time comes. Then live in peace.
Have you also considered you or your brother moving your dad in with one of you?