This neighbor has mowed down her flowers but she never made a report to the police. However she says this man is talking to her what she seems to think from the wall plug. He never asks the same questions and his wife sometimes will make a statement so being a little creeped out about this whole thing I went to the police station and explained my moms situation and gave them some info. about the neighbor. He suggested a camera, motion lights outside,(he also supposedly hitting the outside wall under her bedroom window at night) and one of her children to spend the night to see if this can be validated. He suggested that she document what room shes in when she hears them talking to her and what time of day/night it is happening. The trail cam would tape any movement outside and if she had a tape recorder when she hears them talking to just push the on switch. I explained that we had to do a process of elimination to make sure in fact that what she was hearing was true, and to build her case. Well you would have thought all hell had broke loose because she started yelling that she wasn't hearing things and that she was not going to sit and argue with me that she would just shoot the S.O.B. an stormed out of the house. My brothers and I are very concerned and have been trying to approach her about giving her children DPOA over her financial, and medical needs. Some days she seems to be receptive to it, other days she tells us that will never happen. She had recently was fitted for hearing aids, and they have been adjusted but not with out a blow up on her part because we thought that as the problem. She had told my sister-in -law that my mother-in-law had passed away and a day later ask me if she was home from the hospital and how she was doing. My mom admitted telling her that when I asked her about it, but when I asked her why she would make a statement like that she said she didn't know. I love my mother but this is driving me nuts, and I'm afraid that I will have to take her to the Dr. to have diagnosed as medically unstable, then go for DPOA. Because she isn't going to go on her own without a fight
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Therefore, you might want to get your Mom's drugs checked out for interactions.
Something else I learned in my online research was that the elderly sometimes do experience hallucinatory dreams in the wee hours of the morning, especially just before dawn or just before waking up. The only other thing I have heard is that an undiagnosed urinary tract infection (UTI), even a mild one, could cause mental confusion and hallucinations in the elderly. I found it interesting the parallel scenarios we both experienced with our elders. I hope some of what I related is helpful to you. Please keep us posted with your findings to resolve this issue.
As she goes further into dementia, the "truth" becomes less important. Validate her perceptions as much as you can. Respond to her feelings, even if the facts are whacko. If you discover that she is hallucinating, tell her doctor, who may be able to medicate her.
If I understand the story about the MIL, she just forgot, and didn't remember doing it. She is covering her bad memory to save face.
You've got your hands full.
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