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brokensoul Asked July 2013

Does my sister who's POA of health for my mom have the right to have me blocked out from knowing any of mom's healthcare?

Can my sister as Poa keep me from visiting my mom? What are my rights as her daughter? She was recently in the hospital and my sister who is poa of health never even called and told me. I found out late in the day by email from one of my other sister's who also knew since the morning. Now my mom was transferred to rehab at her assistant living facility and I am not allowed to ask about her care there or at assisted living and I am heartbroken and very concerned about my mom. Is there anyway to protect myself so she can't stop me from seeing my mom. Also is there a way to get her to have to tell me if my is in the hospital and share her health with me. I feel like a criminal with my own mom who loves me. Thanks for your help. Joan

wuvsicecream Jul 2013
brokensoul I can relate to how you're feeling. You need to understand that there is a law called Hippa. This is to protect anyone at all in a health issue situation to be a private personal matter between the Dr's, Hospitals, etc. to keep your info private. In other words unless the patient has given permission by verbal communication within the ability to so, or a written consent saying they can share the info with you.. it's a law. I suggest you try to communicate wit your sister or talk to the social workers involved.

brokensoul Jul 2013
My sister's reason for blocking me is because she does not want me to ask dr's questions about my mom's care or advocate for her. I took care of my mom for the last 3 and a half years. My other siblings are against me because I told my mom she had a choice to be home with care and with my help like I have been doing for my mom and Dad for 8 and a half years. I didn't try to force her to do that. I just wanted her to feel empowered that she had a choice before they forced her into assisted living. I was worried about her mental health because she is still ok. But I had to accept this and then her health started going downhill since she has been there for the last six months and that is why she was just in the hospital and is now in rehab. They do not advocate at all for her and the hospital released her with tremors and they don't know why they are happening. It's very scary because if they can't solve this she might have to go into a nursing home.

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vstefans Jul 2013
The short answer is yes, the POA would be in charge of that. The long answer is really a question - do you know why? is it anything you can change about how you are interacting? (e.g. are you perceived rightly or wrongly as critical or creating drama or stress?) if not, is sister doing anything inappropriate or is she untrustworthy, and is there a neutral third party who could monitor and give you at least the usual minimal information given about a person and their condition in the hospital?

sharynmarie Jul 2013
What are your sisters reasons for blocking you? The only avenue I know that you can take is to file with the courts for a guardianship/conservatorship. That is a last resort if you and your sister can not work things out.

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