Mom is gone and Dad wants to join her. Is it worth trying to talk him out of it?

Hospice has been wonderful. I wish my Mother's doctors were as competent as the various staff from Hospice. My Dad is hitting the bottle pretty hard. It's like waiting for the other shoe to drop or whatever the expression is. Well, it's up to him. I am not going to nag him. It's his call. I don't want to see him suffer.

God that sucks. I'm sorry Dreyfuss. 70 years is a long time, I can't begin to imagine the sense of loss your dad must be going through. Let your father know how important he is to you and the rest of your family (grandkids cousins etc) and that he has you guys to live for.

Dreyfuss, please let us know how things are going with your Father, and what the hospice counselors had to say. I have been thinking about hospice for my mom too, but it's hard to figure out when is the right time.

Actually, My Dad's health isn't bad for a 90 year old. He has bad diabetes but that's about it. My Mom was buried last week. My Dad has made it clear for months that he has no desire to continue after she's gone. Hospice is sending counselors to talk him out of any suicide attempts. Honestly, if he wants to join her, he should have the right to do that. He is 90 and she was his life. Period.

This must be very stressful, I am so sorry you have to go through it. Is his health to the point that he needs hospice? If so, I would think they should be able to help you and your family figure this out. He probably feels like a huge part of him is missing. I know sometimes when one spouse dies the other can grieve so much that they wind up dying soon after. I knew a man whose wife had a heart attack so he called 911, when they got there he was lying right next to her dead. Your right, your Dad most likely cannot be talked out of wanting to join his wife. 70 years wow that is remarkable! I