Mom just had hip surgery and if she does her rehab will at best be able to use a walker. Any suggestions?

First, there are so many statements as to what you really are asking, I am a little confused. You say your sister is a nurse, you have a business degree and yet you don't feel you can contribute to your mother's care? Then your mother had hip surgery, and yes, with rehab she will be able to walk again if she does what PT (physical therapy) tells her to do. Are you looking for help at home for your father to help your mother after she gets home? I suggest calling visitingangels or another home health care agency where they live. I don't understand why your sister is not helping explain things to you, or don't you two get along? You will need to clarify things for this nurse, so I am better able to help you. As far as your mother's nastiness, she may be reacting to the pain meds she is now taking post-surgery, or she is going into the early stages of dementia. I need more information before I can say more.

Your mom may have a negative attitude because she has depression. A number of people who have depression become alcoholics or they may suffer from depression after abstaining. It might be helpful for her to be on an anti-depressant medication. She also may be more willing to participate in her recovery if she is not depressed.

My mother is 94. She broke her right hip in 2004, and her left last month. She is getting pt and op and walking with a walker. She is small weighing only 91 lbs so that might be why she is doing so well. She is moving to assisted living Monday . She has some dementia. What her doctor is talking about must be worst case scenario. She must have a very bad break.

jilielacy, I was told my Mom would never walk again when she broke her hip in three places at 86. I took her home because I felt as though if her mind wasnt happy, she wouldnt . I had PT come to the house 3x a week and in 6 weeks she was on a walker. She couldnt put any pressure on that leg for 6 weeks. She went from the walker to holding the walker in the air while walking and we put it away and she forgot about it. (dementia) Now only did she walk again , she danced. Dont believe the doctors! I dont understand your question on a caregiver, but if anyone treated my Mom wrong they would be gone. He needs positive happy people around him to make sure he feels important and loved. Good luck