Our daughter and family moved in with my parents to take care of them both they cannot be alone at all. I can't do it cause I have vestibular inbalance. They have both medical problems. My Dad, was always active before his problem and now he cannot do anything like he use to. And Mom, cannot take care of Dad. I understand why they are both angry. But, out of the clear blue Dad will blow up on my daughter and he doesn't want them all there without our daughter they would both be in a nursing home and they want to be home. My daughter quit her job to take care of them. I just cannot put down all the things going on. I just want him to stop hurting our daughter and her family.
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Do you know your father's friends? Is there someone close to his age that he respects and would listen to, perhaps better than family?
It is wonderful and generous of your daughter to be willing to rearrange her life to take care of her grandparents. She should not have to put her family in an emotionally charged environment to do it. It is hard enough dealing with the physical problems of two elders.
Either Dad comes around to accept the need for in-home care and to change his attitude toward his Granddaughter, or Granddaughter and her family leaves. Harsh? Maybe. But a reality.
Do everything you can to encourage Dad to change, and be prepared to support your daughter to leave if necessary.