For most of us, the top questions for any new and unfamiliar idea are: "Do I really need to spend money and time on this?" and "Can't I save myself some money by not doing this?"
If you answer the money questions properly, you help the person begin to see the many reasons to protect themselves with power of attorney:
"You'll be saving a lot of money and time if you have a Power of Attorney document. With Power of Attorney, you won't need to have us go to Probate Court to get permission to manage things for you if something happens. That would be very expensive, and your important decisions would end up going public, in front of a judge. Not having Power of Attorney would waste a great amount of money and time."
After the money saving benefits are understood, you can reassure the person with many more benefits:
"You can have your own lawyer prepare the Power of Attorney document the way you want it. Have the lawyer explain the powers that you are considering, and tell you how you can limit or expand the powers, depending on your needs."
Many elder law attorneys make house calls. I bring the laptop and printer to the home appointment, so the client can make changes as we talk about what's important.
Take her dirty clothes away, lay out clean ones.. This works for Dad! If he can;t find them he can;t wear them. Coax her into the nice warm tub or shower, and give her a nice body spray. Mom loves these! The notory at the bank she uses can do the POA, if you have the form (look on line) Our bank does not charge for this . If she is clean and smells good, you may be able to get her to sign. Promise her a nice lunch after? I am becoming very good at distraction and bribes!
Maybe Mom doesn't want to go because she fears losing her independence. At the doctor's visit, get her to sign a health care proxy and they witness it. Keep a copy. One step at a time. Get a durable POA form at an office supply store, and have it signed and notarized during a visit to the bank, or get two independent witnesses to sign it as well. In our case the lawyer came to our house, you might get lucky and find one who will do the same.
Is a durable POA form on line tried SUZY ORMAn but not sure legal enough in this case because mom on meds. for depression and anxiety need a lawyer ?? Any body actually have experience with this kind of situation?
thanks our public library has notary for free. just worried about someone contesting her signature because of her mental state with mental illness . trying to get free consultation with young lawyer a block from her house if she will only go and stop stressing about not wanting to be alive.Yes she is on meds. after surgery for rectocele last week she just is not feeling up to anything. And says look what I've gotten her into. Poor brother is doing the best he can living with her. I go over half the week or more and I can usually only handle 2 days at a time before having chest pains or getting angry with the craziness. My brother is bi-polar and my mom has been his support all these years and he says he has had to survive with much worse in his history of mental illiness treatment thru the system. He actually seems to not get as emotionally drained as I do dealing with my mom....
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If you answer the money questions properly, you help the person begin to see the many reasons to protect themselves with power of attorney:
"You'll be saving a lot of money and time if you have a Power of Attorney document. With Power of Attorney, you won't need to have us go to Probate Court to get permission to manage things for you if something happens. That would be very expensive, and your important decisions would end up going public, in front of a judge. Not having Power of Attorney would waste a great amount of money and time."
After the money saving benefits are understood, you can reassure the person with many more benefits:
"You can have your own lawyer prepare the Power of Attorney document the way you want it. Have the lawyer explain the powers that you are considering, and tell you how you can limit or expand the powers, depending on your needs."
Many elder law attorneys make house calls. I bring the laptop and printer to the home appointment, so the client can make changes as we talk about what's important.
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her signature because of her mental state with mental illness . trying to get free consultation with young lawyer a block from her house if she will only go and stop stressing about not wanting to be alive.Yes she is on meds. after surgery for rectocele last week she just is not feeling up to anything. And says look what I've
gotten her into. Poor brother is doing the best he can living with her. I go over
half the week or more and I can usually only handle 2 days at a time before having
chest pains or getting angry with the craziness. My brother is bi-polar and my mom has been his support all these years and he says he has had to survive with
much worse in his history of mental illiness treatment thru the system. He actually
seems to not get as emotionally drained as I do dealing with my mom....