Can I find a way to help my elderly boyfriend now that he's losing his faculties and has no one listed to help him?

ps - I just realized I'm a little confused, has his own house these days with you, what's that about?

How old is your boyfriend? This is very passive aggressive behavior on his part. He certainly has gotten your attention eh? And now you are stewing and begging him to come indoors and so are other people, wow a lot of attention for bad behavior. As Carolynn stated, making a report to the police once a day and perhaps adult protective services is a good idea. You may want to file an order of protection if you feel his behavior is that bizarre. May I ask what prompted is move to the car? Did he tell you he plans to live in your driveway long term or is he just acting out because he did not get his own way while living in your house?

I wouldn't call 911 unless it's an immediate emergency. But I would call the police at least once everyday and ask them to come out and make a report that you tried to call 911 but they assessed your boyfriend is OK, however he is still in front of your house in a state of disarray after xx days. Enough of those reports and they may initiate a 72-hour psych evaluation. If he sits still, you may not be a danger to himself but it seems as if he is a danger to others especially if he drives erratically. Also call the Department of Aging an adult protective services to describe the problem and see if you can get some assistance. Why does your boyfriend suddenly want to have nothing to do with you and is willing to live in his car and pee in a bottle? This is hardly normal behavior. Something is definitely wrong. You know it and you need to convince others. What about some religious assistance: a rabbi, minister or priest, etc? Did the two of you do any activities together where you might bring in a trusted third party to intervene?