Second fall and subdural hematoma. I'm devastated. Any hope?

Thanks everyone for your thoughts and encouragement. Alwayslearning...yes, I spent time thinking about hope for what...and then started to pray for courage to help me accept God's plan. Thankfully she has started to recover nicely...reabsorbing the latest hematoma. She fell while being watched closely by me and her caregiver. Lots of guilt there...but it's hard to be 2 inches away ALL the time....so hard to to feel responsible. But most days I find some comfort in doing what I can...and then some...I know her day will come and I will miss her...so, so, so much..mo matter how hard these days. She'e my mom and did her best to love me and care for me all my life...I plan to try and do the same for her...love and hugs to all of you

Oh.... it's a big blow. I'm sorry. Be a little gentle with yourself, it's a tough time.

You say you feel defeated, and you are looking for hope. You might gently ask yourself, what does hope look like? Hope for.... what? Your mom is going to die because we all do; if you feel, as many people do, that every step in the direction of death is a defeat, you will suffer all the more and so will your mom. She is the one making that journey right now and victory for you is being a good companion along the way. There are many kinds of success. She's lucky to have you care so much.

There is always hope until the final breath. Why did she fall the second time? Wasn't she being watched closely? What do the doctors say about the second fall. Unanswered information, and I would need more...

Just a thought, could she have had TIA's in the past couple of months preceding the falls? Transient Ischemic Attack - they are like a ministroke. My mom has had episodes of TIA's in May before she fell & shattered her hip in June. TIA's apparently are common and repair themselves if they are far apart in occurrence.

I have no experience with this. I just want to offer you a cyber hug and warm thoughts. I am sure this is devastating. What are the doctors saying about this?