How can I get my father to pee sitting down or lock the lid so he has to sit down?

Seacoast69 has a good point. My elderly Dad has a very hard time getting down and up from the toilet. We are currently looking for raised toilets.

You ain't lieing, Appaloosa!! ALL different directions!!!

According to my husband, older men have a problem with the urine stream splitting and going in all different directions at once, so that aim really doesn't enter into it. I don't know what you can do about it.

Any male caregivers out there have a suggestion? Or others might ask their menfolk for ideas.

I don't have an answer but your question reminds me of something we experienced with my mom. At a certain point my mom started losing her ability to walk. We got her a cane and two different kinds of walkers. She refused to use them and even if she would try to she couldn't/wouldn't stand up straight or in the right position to use them. A physical therapist said that since Alzheimer's is by definition a memory loss disease, learning anything new is almost impossible. If a skill wasn't learned before the Alzheimer's it just wasn't going to happen after the loss of brain cells has started. I'm trying to learn how to adjust myself to my mom rather than trying to get her to adjust to me. Of course I don't know what you and your dad are dealing with, but I have read on this site before about people that turned the pants so that the zipper is to the back or dressed the loved one in sweat pants with the waistband string to the back where they can't really get their clothes off soon enough to pee. If your dad was wearing incontinence drawers (even though I know you say he isn't incontinent) and he can't get his pants down soon enough then the drawers would catch the urine. Then you can just check the drawers every two hours and hopefully the clothes won't be wet. We have washable underpads (from eBay) on chairs, recliner, wheel chair, and bed to help with any overflow that does sometimes occur. I know it is exasperating and I know your dad is so glad that you are there dealing with this for him.

Sorry I cannot help. My Alz. husband just decided on his own to sit down. And I was so happy. When he stood up, I think his mind would wander. He wasn't quite done, but thought he was. I try to get in the bathroom with him everytime, because once the pants are down, he thinks it's time!! I gotta be fast. I find suggesting and /or showing easier on both of us, than to order him to do something. Explaining why does no good.

Try a booster seat, it maybe hard for him to sit and get back up ? They have them on eBay for about $40 and raises the seat 3" which helps getting back to thier feet.

Would it help if you got him to drop his pants and underwear to the floor, or is the aim such that it's outside the toilet bowl altogether? Old habits are hard to break, trying to change a routine he has used for decades may cause more problems than extra laundry...

I wonder if he would be willing to pee standing up but into a plastic bottle urinal that he (or you) could then dump into the toilet. That would sure eliminate the aim problem.