I am one of five children. I was not chosen to be my mother's caregiver. I love my mother. My mother loves me. My sister controls my mom's every move, so much so, that I am never privvy to information when my mother becomes ill or is admitted to a hospital. I am a frustrated and loving daughter. I visit my mom. I phone my mom. I take her meals, groceries, etc. My sister hogs my mom on every holiday, birthday, etc. And she is secretive. My sister needs money. I do not. I only want to share my mother's life in every way imaginable, yet I get blown off. Again, did I mention that my sister needs the money? What does a sibling of a caregiver do when the caregiver has the inheritance in mind? Not everyone can be the caregiver and my sister is evil. Help! Not all caregivers are good people.
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I'm so sorry for your situation.
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eye. I will say, though, that I have kept my mouth shut because I do understand the toil of a caregiver. I have never questioned any decisions made on my sister's part. Except leaving myself and my brother in-the-dark. I suspect that she is dipping and not reporting...new car, vacations, etc.,etc. I believe that she fears being found out. Hence, the secrecy. My husband and I are financially settled. We do not want any money. We only want the caregiver ( my sister) to have a moral compass so that we can enjoy my mother in her final years.