just a thought, I hear ya! I agree. Its been an eye-opener for me too these past couple of months with my mom in a nursing home. The money they get is ridiculous and the care is not balanced with the money spent. They have decided that my father who barely walks on his own two legs can take my mom home now. She has bementia and impulse issues with it and I can't deal with it anymore here at home. She barely walks with a walker and I really don't get it all how they can honestly make this assessment. That sounds absurd what they are putting you through.
My mom is in a skilled nursing facility. I am looking into options as the care there is 10k plus her medication. The part that I am adamant about is this is addressed in a phone call while I am at work!This is MY mother,not to mention a human being.NO compassion, just have someone here by 5pm(its 2:30pm). I may switch homes all together. just trying to balance it all. want to write to the state and any agencies that will listen because it is also very hard on me.not boo hoo...i have been doing this at home with caregivers for 3 years .the next step was the nursing home and now i'm back to caregivers? Our society does not do much for the aged( that is wrong!
Nikki- You are correct, but people that are in the early stages of dementia are often placed in assisted living. I have gathered from conversations over the years with different facilities that once they can no longer find their way to their own unit memory care becomes a necessity. Each facility has a scoring system that helps them determine the level of care needed, and most often the scoring is different.
I'm new here, but the first thought that popped into my head was, 'Is your mom in an ASSISTED LIVING facility'? If she is, then I read on here that they don't accept people who have dementia and/or Alzheimer's. As I understand it, assisted living facilities are for elderly folks who need help with things like meals, laundry, trips to the store... Pls correct me if I'm wrong. I'm curious to hear this answer as well, because before I joined here I always thought that assisted living meant "help living" in every aspect, including Dementia/AD since there are so many older people who get it.
It's either a 1:1 or they kick her out, to protect the staff and other clients. You might want to look into a secure memory facility or ask the MD to prescribe meds to calm her down.
It may agitate her, but if the medical pros say she needs it, she must. Can you bring in anyone you want or does the facility have pre-approved lists of caregivers?
i think that is an excellent viewpoint..i just an thinking that a caregiver one on one would just increase her agitation. that is the last thing i want to do:(
Sometimes it is when they require more care. They have many residents that need assistance that will not receive it if mom needs 1 on 1. I have heard of this happening frequently. Maybe you need a different care facility with a higher level of care.
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You are correct, but people that are in the early stages of dementia are often placed in assisted living. I have gathered from conversations over the years with different facilities that once they can no longer find their way to their own unit memory care becomes a necessity. Each facility has a scoring system that helps them determine the level of care needed, and most often the scoring is different.