Can my son receive finanical assistance for caring for me daily?

How can such a simple question turn into such controversary. It is a question about getting paid as a caregiver not about how to live one's life. It doesn't matter who is asking the question. I am sure there are many others on this site that may have the same question and could use the same advice as the one posting the quesion.

Standing Alone, Yes I agree, when he gets to that point, but he is not there yet, he doesn't even give her any insulin. He doesn't dress her, medicate her or bathe her or deal with dementia as you have. He does however, pretend to be her when he asks the question. Rather odd.

Pstegman, I beg to differ. A 'roof' certainly isn't enough compensation for care giving. I had a roof myself, my own roof. And yeah, I had to cook and clean and all that, too...for MYSELF, not for anyone else. When I moved in with my mom to care for her, yeah, she provided a roof, something I had already anyway. My work load suddenly went through the roof and so will the son's here as mom gets older and continues to decline. Not to mention all that he'll eventually have to give up in the care giving role, if he hasn't already, like freedom, relationships, fun, LIFE, etc, etc, etc.... HE should be paying half the household expenses? Please. MOM is kind? Mom should be on her knees thanking God for this guy...and writing him a check every week to boot if she wants to keep him. *shrug*

Hi worden747,

There are two great articles written by AgingCare.com editor’s that were already posted in our community. We thought this might answer your caregiving question.

“10 Government Programs You Can Access for Your Elderly Parents.”
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/10-Government-Programs-Caregivers-Can-Access-for-Their-Elderly-Parents-120513.htm

“How Can I Get Paid for taking Care of My Elderly Parents?”
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/how-to-get-paid-for-being-a-caregiver-135476.htm

We hope this helps.

Thank you,

Ashley T.
The AgingCare.com Team

Maybe. Are you eligible for any program of financial aid? If you have been approved to receive the kind of care he provides, the program may pay a relative just as it would anybody else. For example, my disabled brother gets paid by the Medicaid Elderly Waiver program for cleaning for my mother. A sister called the Medicaid case worker and arranged this after my mother was dissatisfied with the job being done by the homemaker sent by an agency.

If you are on any financial aid, call your case worker and discuss this. If you are not, and think you might be eligible, one way to find out is to call your county's social services and ask for a needs assessment.

The short answer to your question is yes, it is possible. Please read here and click on the link in the article that says "IHSS" and "In Home Support Services".
thedevotedheart

Well, if you are putting a roof over his head, I would say that is quite enough. He should have a full-time job to support himself. He should be paying half the household expenses. He would have to cook and clean and shop even if he was living alone. You are too kind!