I have six siblings and they all agreed upon me being mom's caregiver. My eldest sister who is POA and I have never gotten along. Now she is bound and determined to get me out of the house. She says she will no longer pay me and that I will have to leave. I was receiving $100 a week to stay with her. Needless to say I have no resources to leave the home and no where to go. (I quit a full time job and moved to take of our mother). I am lost, could someone please give me some advice?
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And your sister is abusing her authority, and she is getting rid of her primary caregiver, thus they have no caregiving skills and she will be led down the path to the sale of her house and NH.
Which is not what it is cracked up to be.
It sounds to me like they got the whiff, (someone whispered in her ear) that caregivers are entitled to more than she so cheaply paid for, and it's the GREED SPEAK, that some POAs, think they are self entitled to (not saying anything about legitimate POAs) ours thought it was their property, their bank accounts, we reported them to Senior abuse "we were in fear of/for her life", we could not avoid, although we tried, to save the house and her lifelong belongings, we could not, but they were removed and the money from the estate is paying for a house.
Your sister sounds like, the same type of individuals we were faced with, depleted our savings, and so forth.
You did not say what country or state you are in, but if all you received was 100.00 a week, you my dear live at poverty level, if in the US, we have lawyers you can access, because of this...
for people to tell you, you will have to move, isn't something practical for a person with no means, there are state programs for that, caregivers should never be thrown to the street because their siblings don't "value" them or their "priceless" service or the POAs have let their power go to their head(and not in the best interest of the mother).
You could report her to senior services, but I would first go through children and family services or whatever the protection agency for families is by you.
Senior abuse can sometimes not have the desired consequence tht you are looking for.
They told us, that they would take their POA away, but when they interviewed the other side which is what they will do, all of a sudden their was a report of senior abuse counter claimed, by the POAs, but now after 3years no longer believed.
The final of our case (3 years after reporting them to senior abuse) now is that we are still the caregivers, she is a ward of the state, but protected---and that is powerful and they cannot have access to my (our as opposed to her house) home, pick up and drop off is done by the car and it is the best under the circumstances that it can be.
Expect that you will be estranged from your sister, but aren't you already?
(you will be able to keep your sister at arms length...)
Hopefully you can stay with a friend or another sibling while you get on your feet.
Don't go back until all sibs agree and present you with a legal employment contract.
No, SA be grateful you do not have siblings!
get your other siblings to help you and tell her she has no right to kick you out unless you were abusing your mum or robbing her?? I don't think she has the right to do that without a good excuse and here we are again down this silly road another sibling has POA but dosnt do the caring what stinks about this? My mum either has me as POA or no care! If you can leave then try but surely your other siblings must have a say?
Good luck been there stood up to the lot of them and I won!!!
What is your oldest sister proposing as an alternative arrangement for your mother's care?
In addition to knowing that your sister banked your mother's money in her own account, do you have any evidence that she spent any of it other than for your mother's care or benefit? The thing is, while I agree she ought to have kept your mother's money separate, as long as she kept it safe and spent it appropriately she hasn't done anything wrong - or not wrong enough, anyway. It doesn't have to be much, but you would have to be able to prove that she used your mother's for something - anything - other than your mother's welfare. Any proven examples you can think of?
I hate the fact that your own sister would threaten you with the street. That is crazy to me, especially for some stupid, petty gripe she's got against you. This isn't about HER, it's about your MOM. She should pull her head out of her ass sometime in the near future if she's doing this out of no other reason than out of spite or pure malice. I don't know your sister, but if that's the game she's playing, I don't like her kind at all. She wouldn't be my sister another day. Some things just aren't forgivable and threatening you with homelessness to satisfy some grudge is the lowest of the low in my opinion.