I know that sounds like a 70's song but the other night Dad was having "relations" with his imaginary girlfriend when I came out of my room to see why he was wandering the house. I asked "what are ya doing?" he said "that's none of your business, Coleen this is my daughter Lori."
No one there... I ask again... what are you doing
Taking Coleen home (he was standing at the very locked front door trying to unlock it)
Where is Coleen?
Right there sitting on the edge of the sofa
I walk over and sit where he pointed "you mean here?"
you sat on her lap!!!
Dad I think you need to go to bed. (it was 230 am)
He got VERY upset was adamant she needed to get home now.. she was embarrassed that I had caught them doing "it"
I ended up 20 minutes later getting clothes on and taking "Coleen" home. actually I drove around the block.
he spent the next 48 hours absolutely manic... wanted to balance his checkbook and wash the dog and call the bank. Press his sweatpants for church. He did not sleep and neither did I. He took my injectable medication without me knowing it and that got an emergency call to his doctor who assured me it would be ok just watch him... ok that's obvious. When I told him he cant give himself meds anymore he blew up at me and I said I don't want to go to prison because he took the wrong meds, he said "maybe that would be the best thing for you, prison" I lost it... I told him to kiss my ass and went to my room and locked the door, he then proceeded to try and take my knob off my door so he could complain some more about everything under the sun. I want a vacation, a long beautiful vacation. I want my bro and sis to help out ... they told dad they don't do anything because I'm the one who lives here so its my duty to do it all. I don't get it, even prisoners get time outside on their own right?
I'm whiny and grumpy and I want to run away
thanks for the ear,
question is should I have played along? haha... yeah I made y'all read all that for the tiny question at the end. xoxoxox
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I feel so sorry for you this must be awful for you but do you not think its time for a NH my mums illness is very subtle and so far so good she sleeps all night maybe gets up the odd night to make tea, but i think her wandering around at night and doing mad things would just finish me off boy if i had to live with any less sleep id be a walking zombie.
Someone told me about a patch instead of aricept??
Also talk to his MD about WHEN he may need to be placed in a facility. If he starts raging and pounding on things, it is time. If it's just naked women, I would let him enjoy the show.
As long as he isn't trying to board a plane to Cincinnati with her or anything...
But to answer your question, should you go along with it or not, I would say yes, go along with it. That is your dad's reality. In his mind he has a girlfriend. Arguing with him will only agitate him and I've never seen anything positive come out of arguing with someone who is having delusions, trying to get them to understand that what they're experiencing is not real. It's very real to them.
Maybe have the Dr. prescribe your dad something that will keep him calm and not storming around the house at 2:30 a.m. Ambien or valium, something like that.
And find another way to get "Colleen" home at night. Maybe she can take a bus or maybe someone can come pick her up so you don't have to drive around the block in the middle of the night. Don't ask your dad how "Colleen" is getting home, just tell him that she told you someone was coming for her.
But I see nothing wrong in your dad having these delusions. They may give him comfort.
And really, your siblings have a big, fat glowing 'L' on their foreheads. Losers. They should be stepping up to the plate, dealing with dad and his girlfriend themselves a day or two a week and giving you a MUCH needed break. Even one day off a week can be a godsend. Can you hire someone for a day...or a weekend? Maybe the sibs would be willing to help pay for that. We can only hope...
sounds like your really skilled at dealing with crazy. im suggesting doc / phsyc care in conjunction. you can take him to er and they actually would want to intern him for a few days / weeks to work on getting the meds right. its what they wanted to do with my mom when she was trippin. watch your personal valuables, the girlfriend is a pill hor but otherwise not a bad girl.